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Creating a community for working parents
24 aug 2020

"Before I had Ana, I think I was a bit naive about how returning to work would be. I thought I'd jump straight back into working five days a week and it wouldn't be a problem," says Marj.

"I always thought you were either 100% focused on your career or a stay-at-home mum, but I felt I was somewhere in the middle. I still loved my job, but I also loved spending time with Ana."

After a year's maternity leave, Marj decided a four-day working week was the right balance.

As a Business Development Manager, Marj's job of buying and selling oil and gas fields is project-based, with peaks and troughs in workload. It wasn't long after her return from maternity leave that a big project came up and Marj was keen to be involved in delivering it.

"I'd done all the groundwork, so when discussions started I wanted to see it through. I knew it would involve some intense work and I would have to sacrifice my Wednesday off for a few weeks, but I asked Mum to look after Ana and we just bashed through it," she says.

"It was a fantastic project and I loved being involved, but it was difficult; I missed my daughter terribly. I knew I couldn't continue working at that pace, so I started questioning whether I should be doing a role with more regular hours. But I'd done those roles before and had become bored quickly. I didn't know what to do."

Marj signed up for a mentor through the AXIS Network, a non-for-profit group focused on increasing gender balance in Aberdeen's energy industry. It helped her effectively navigate the challenges she was facing.

"In hindsight, I didn't need to lead the project on my own. I could have gotten some help, which my manager had offered. But I wanted to do it all; I was in denial, trying to pretend my life hadn't changed. And I think you need to go through that journey to find a comfortable balance between work and parenting."

It's only when you speak to people that you realise they are all managing their own juggling acts

Supporting working parents through Covid-19

Of course, the group found a new purpose when the country was thrown into lockdown in March 2020 following the coronavirus outbreak, with its members exploding from a group of 15 to 50.

"Suddenly we had to pivot our focus to assist with all these new challenges thrust upon working parents. The group really came into its own, supporting and representing the needs of working parents during this time.

"We organised formal comms for how leaders could support working parents, and we had our CEO join one of our group meetings and share his own personal experiences homeschooling his kids, which was well received."

Marj's biggest advice for juggling work and children during COVID-19 lockdowns is to just be kind to yourself. "You can't judge yourself too harshly – we're in a crisis situation."

The Network

For Marj, another benefit of being involved in the working parents' group – and more broadly Spirit Energy's five other employee-led groups: LGBT+; ethnicity; gender balance; young professionals; and carers, disabilities and wellbeing – is a new appreciation for the importance of diversity and inclusion.

"While the company has been establishing its own culture, and on this diversity and inclusion journey, I've been on a journey myself.

"I've learnt a lot by being involved with these groups. I think it's pretty cool that the company's challenged my thinking, and made me reevaluate my views on what being diverse and inclusive truly means."